Refusing To Live As A Victim

A person with a victim mentality has learned to focus on suffering while trying to avoid more at any cost.  Some isolate and live behind high walls.  They complain and blame and are easily angered.  Some bury their feelings, opinions and desires and just do what they are told, believing they are powerless. They believe that life can only improve if someone else fixes what is wrong.

God says, I have swept away your sins like a cloud.   I have scattered your offenses like the morning mist.  Oh, return to me, for I have paid the price to set you free.

Isaiah 44:22

God promises that regardless of what has happened to us, we can have victory over it by trusting Him and following His direction.  God also assures us that nothing in heaven or on earth can separate us from His love.

Can anything ever separate us from Christ’s love? Does it mean he no longer loves us if we have trouble or calamity, or are persecuted, or hungry, or destitute, or in danger, or threatened with death?  As the Scriptures say, “For your sake we are killed every day; we are being slaughtered like sheep.”  No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us. 

Romans 8:35-37

While our specific experience of pain might not be mentioned in the above verses, the intent of the writer is to tell us that whatever injustice and trouble we have suffered, God’s word remains true in our situation.  God promises us that we can live victoriously. 

We don’t need to just survive and cope with what life has handed us.  Our future has not been stolen by the abusive person in our past.  God wants to pour out His grace upon us and give us new life.  Are we willing to let go of the old and embrace the new?

Loving God,  You know everything that has touched our lives and brought pain and trauma to us.  Help us today to receive Your comfort and healing.  Help us to hand over to You our painful memories and the people in them who harmed us.

Give us courage to let the whole truth be known – to find a trusted person to share it with if that’s what’s needed. 

Fill us with your grace and teach us how to live well in this day and how to welcome healthy relationships into our lives. 

I want to live in the overwhelming victory God promises us, don’t you?  Let’s have a great day.