Stop Arguing

Why do people argue?  Sometimes we argue because we want our own way. We want to hang on to things as we've known them, or we want the sense of power that comes from being in control.

Sometimes we argue simply because we are tired or don't understand what the other person is trying to say.  Whatever the reason, when we find ourselves arguing, it's best to take a step back and think about what is going on.

Here's good advice from the Bible about arguing:

Don’t get involved in foolish, ignorant arguments that only start fights. A servant of the Lord must not quarrel but must be kind to everyone, be able to teach, and be patient with difficult people. 

2 Timothy 2:23-24

It's one thing to respectfully debate a particular issue in a genuine search for truth.  We can question one another, and go back and forth with thoughts and facts that speak to both points of view on the topic in question. 

However, when we move into that place where we are trying to get people to agree with us, or simply win the argument, then nothing very useful is going to come out of the discussion and we would do well to step away.  

The start of an argument is like a small leak in a dam. Stop it before a big fight breaks out. A troublemaker loves to start arguments. Anyone who likes to brag is asking for trouble. 

Proverbs 17:14, 19

We often say things in the heat of an argument that we wish we hadn’t.  The same is likely true of the other person in the argument and we need to offer grace and understanding to them. 

Motivational speaker Wayne Dyer says it well: “Arguments drag out because one is too stubborn to forgive and the other is too proud to apologize.” 

So today, Heavenly Father, would You help us to seek after truth and reconciliation more than simply wanting to win an argument. Please give us the strength and grace to respond with kindness and respect when a conversation gets divisive, and not be too proud to do what is right.

Give us patience and perseverance to discuss respectfully until we truly understand what the other person is trying to communicate.  Help us to let go of the need to have our own way and to find a true middle road that cares for everyone in the discussion, even difficult people.  Amen

A challenge for sure but let’s have a great day as we give it our best shot to be kind to everyone and avoid foolish arguments.