Step 9 - Making Amends
“Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother. Then come and offer your gift.”
Matthew 5:23-24
Step Nine calls for direct amends except when to do so might cause further injury. We want to be careful that we aren't trying to achieve our personal serenity at the expense of someone else. When we're making amends, we need to be wise in the way we go about it. We need to weigh the feelings and needs of the people who will be exposed to what we want to say and do. When the time is right, and with a prayerful attitude of seeking God to heal the people we have harmed, God will guide each of us to the pathway to peace.
Click on any of the links below for more information on how to build these principles into a person's daily living as we consider Step Nine.
Making Amends
Considering Others
Other Helpful Information on This Step
The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous or the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions