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Twelve Steps Of A.a. Step Nine Acting With Kindness And Consideration

Monday November 27, 2017

It’s important to plan carefully and be wise as we seek to make amends for our part in relationship breakdowns.  We may be so anxious to get things off our chest, that we fail to consider the impact it will have on the person to whom we are making the amends.  The pressure of guilt and fear of exposure may cause us to make mistakes we can't erase. 


Jesus left heaven to come to earth to die for our sins so we could have a restored relationship with God and with others.  Even though He knew the detestable sins of the hearts and actions of people around Him, Jesus’ invitation to them and to us, is to come and learn His humble and gentle ways.  As we seek to restore our relationships, we need to learn from God and wise people around us, what is helpful and what is harmful.
The wise are known for their understanding, and pleasant words are persuasive.  Discretion is a life-giving fountain to those who possess it, but discipline is wasted on fools. From a wise mind comes wise speech; the words of the wise are persuasive. Kind words are like honey—sweet to the soul and healthy for the body. (Proverbs 16:21-24 NLT)




We need to consider the feelings and needs of the people who will be exposed to what we want to do and say.  We need to rely on God, our sponsors, and other trusted friends in recovery for help and guidance in sensitively dealing with others.  God desires restoration in our relationships and is willing to teach us if we will listen and learn.

Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves.  Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.  (Philippians 2:3-4 NLT)


Prayer:  Heavenly Father, As I undertake to make amends with those I have harmed please help me to act with humility and gentleness. Help me to consider the other person’s interests rather than dwell on my own.  AMEN

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