Resentment And Buried Grudges

Thursday March 14, 2019

We feel hurt when another’s unkind words or actions cause our self-worth to be devalued.  If amends are not made, we often carry grudges against the offenders which cause us further harm.  Hanging on to a bitter grudge and seeking revenge only sickens our soul and damages those who are close to us.





Forgiveness is the only way to stop the ongoing pain from buried grudges. For some of us who have been victimized, forgiveness is unthinkable. We still feel the pain of the offence and forgiveness rips at our sense of justice. We want the offender to pay, to suffer in return for the suffering they have inflicted on us. However, until we forgive the offender, the offence he or she committed against us will continue to harm us.  Due to our unwillingness to forgive, the occurrence will fester with resentment in our souls and the link between us and the perpetrator will remain.  The Bible gives us the following advice:

Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone. Dear friends, never avenge yourselves. Leave that to God. For it is written, “I will take vengeance; I will repay those who deserve it,” says the Lord.  Instead, do what the Scriptures say: “If your enemies are hungry, feed them.  If they are thirsty, give them something to drink, and they will be ashamed of what they have done to you.”  (Romans 12:18-20 NLT)



Healing will come if we are willing to let go.  Why not take the lingering pain and resentment of offences against us to the cross where Jesus atoned for them? Why not choose to forgive and turn the person who harmed us over to God?  Why not be guided in all our ways by the love of God? 

See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!  All who have this hope in him purify themselves, just as he is pure. (1 John 3:1a, 3 NIV)



Prayer: Heavenly Father, Help me to forgive others their sin against me as You have forgiven my sin against You.  I desire to be free from all the grudges and bitterness that I have held against others.  Please help me to let go and allow the healing process to begin.  Amen

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