New Relationships

We all long for the joy and comfort of being in a loving relationship with a significant other.  When we come into recovery it’s important to remind ourselves that we haven’t been practicing good principles in relating to others and if we want a healthy relationship going forward it’s a good idea to take some time to figure out what a healthy relationship looks like.  It will take trial and error on our part to put new principles into practice, so it’s best to make our mistakes and learn some lessons by keeping some distance for a time from any new relationship.  This will ensure any long-term relationship is built on respect rather than on hurts not yet healed in us.

Let me hear of your unfailing love each morning, for I am trusting you. Show me where to walk, for I give myself to you.  (Psalm 143:8 NLT)

It’s important to pray and trust God to lead us to those people with whom we can have a solid and joyful future.  Just because someone is attractive and seems to be a nice person doesn’t mean that they are right for us.  We often have inflated views of ourselves as well as unrealistic expectations of others that are linked to co-dependency.  It takes time to bring our imperfect but precious selves to someone else who is also imperfect and precious and allow God to help us get to know the real person and what kind of relationship He has in mind for us with that person.

Prayer:  Heavenly Father, It’s true that I need to learn from You how to be a loving person who can have a respectful relationship.  Help me to learn and grow so I can experience the joy of having a loving relationship with You and with another person.  Amen

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