Rescuing Relationships

Some of us slid into destructive and addictive lifestyles out of a desire to have friends and companions to belong to.  We longed to have people around us to enrich our lives and to be able to do the same for them.  Some of us attempted to support and rescue others from the effects of their dysfunctional lifestyle.  In the beginning we were gracious and happy to be a friend and offer our support but, as time moved along and the chaos continued, we became progressively critical and unhappy with our situation. 

Too many of us remain in unhealthy relationships because we are afraid of the impact our withdrawal may have on the person we are trying to support.  We put up with their constant unhappiness, physical or mental abuse, substance abuse, financial chaos, medical issues etc. etc.  We refuse to acknowledge that we are powerless in the situation.  Perhaps our own identity is in the role of staying connected to their world, and we fear change.  Compulsive rescuers, in a roundabout way, may be seeking to support their own shortcomings.

 Whoever hides their sins will not be successful, but whoever confesses their sins and stops doing wrong will receive mercy.  People who respect others will be blessed, but stubborn people will have plenty of troubles.  (Proverbs 28:13-14 ERV) 

Through Jesus, God has already made provision to rescue each of us from a life burdened down by sin.  By surrendering to God and obeying the guidance of the Holy Spirit, we gain wisdom in all our affairs.  If we humbly ask God to remove all our shortcomings, our relationship with others will grow and be healthy.

 Let’s take a good look at the way we’re living and reorder our lives under God.  (Lamentations 3:40 MSG)

Prayer:  Heavenly Father, You alone are the giver of new life.  Help me to accept the things I cannot change and change the things I can.  I ask You for discernment and wisdom in all my relationships so I may know the difference.  Amen

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