Gaining And Practicing Discretion

In the Big Book of AA, we are advised to use discretion in knowing how much time and attention to give to one situation versus the time others might benefit from if given more of our time and support.  Employers are encouraged to use discretion in how they approach employees they want to help, even by mentioning the Big Book.  We are cautioned to use discretion when making our Step 9 amends to people, and to do so only when it would not further injure them or others.

To show discretion is to know the right thing to do in a situation and to behave in such a way that we don't cause offense.  Quite the challenge. Thankfully, the Bible is very clear about how we can gain wisdom and practice discretion.  

We know that on our own we are powerless to maintain healthy boundaries, think before we speak, or know what’s best in complicated situations.  God’s promise is that He will give us common sense, will protect us, will show us the way that is just and fair, and will even fill us with joy as we allow Him to lead us on this journey.  We get wisdom and discretion by improving our conscious contact with God through prayer and meditation, and by practicing His principles in all our affairs.  In other words, we learn through journeying with God, obeying what He says works, and then benefiting from the lessons we learn as we witness the results.  Discretion doesn’t come in a moment.  It comes from prayer, experience, integrity, and surrender to God’s will.

Prayer:  Heavenly Father, I want to show wisdom and discretion in all my affairs.  Help me practice Your ways in each situation I encounter today.  When I should be silent, help me to relinquish the desire to speak.  Where I need to practice healthy boundaries, help me to do so.  Help me to learn from the lessons You are teaching me as I walk with You each day.  Amen

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