Confronting With Love

 Confrontational people tend to approach situations with aggression.  We might describe them as argumentative or even hostile. They are often pushy with their thoughts and opinions.  They seem to work in an "I'm right and you're wrong and you need to get with the program" attitude.  They are ready to tell anyone who will listen what is on their mind.  They "speak their truth" regardless of its impact on the person listening to them.  They say they are being assertive, but others experience it as being demanding and perhaps even abusive. 

 My friends, if someone is caught in any kind of wrongdoing, those of you who are spiritual should set him right; but you must do it in a gentle way. And keep an eye on yourselves, so that you will not be tempted, too. By speaking the truth in a spirit of love, we must grow up in every way to Christ. (Galatians 6:1, Ephesians 4:15a GNT) 

 When we bring a humble attitude to our conversation, even when challenge is included, we will not come off as being confrontational and aggressive. 

Prayer:  Heavenly Father, It is hard to confront others with truth and even harder to know how to do so in a loving and encouraging way.  Please help me to communicate clearly and effectively, and to do so with kindness.  When confrontation is stirred up, help me to attentively listen for Your guidance and remember that a quiet word can turn away anger.  Amen